Love is possible anywhere

Upon reading hundreds and hundreds of romance comic books and watching numerous romance movies and dramaas i've finally realised the worrld's philosopy of love and its observation...

Not long ago in KYLC - or NextGen(they call it now), our strand leader was explaining the danger of having a one -on- one counselling session with the opposite sex. One of the reason why it's so dangerous is because a man and a woman alone together can develop feelings without any reason. It can start from pity to "love" or just admiration of that person's character- but the way we fall in love is the same. 

The way the world falls in love is the same. Never in a movie - once - i see that the person falls in love with the other girl/boy because of some sophisticated reason. Well - i might see how love develops because the other person keeps on giving and giving so the person falls in love - but love is such an easy thing to get and loose. Especially, that in movies and books. 

The only way love can survive (according to movies n books) is when love is committed and keep on persevering and sacrificing for the other. 

I am not at all saying that it is wrong - i'm actually saying that ITS RIGHT!! That is how God loves us - He is committed to His decision and promises, He stays true to it and He is willing to sacrifice the One He loves the most - just for us. 

And now, my struggle is how do we put this into our view of romance? On how we pick which one is right for us. On how do we know we love such and such person. On how do we love one that we supposedly "love" romantically. And on how do we fall in love in the first place - WHAT IS the real definition of FALLING IN LOVE?

Its so important for us to ask these things - and not just "fall in love" for no reason. One thing why i might and never believe in love at the first sight is this:

pro: because love at the first sight - is a statement of commitment at that one very point to keep on pursuing the person that we "fall in love" with. Its a declaration that he/she is willing to give it all for that one person and be comitted in it.

cons: at the first place - i believe that "falling in love" truly means falling into your own foolishness.. once we fall - if we stay in that pit name love - we will surely die - one way or another someone is going to gravel some dirt name reality in it and burries us in with it 

oh.. i do wish that every couple will think about what love truly means... 

the best definition of God and His promises and His proove of love is from my teacher Steve Coxhead - that everything that God does - everything that He gives and takes and promised to give is a proove of His commitment. the promises that He gives is a reminder of His commitment and a statement of His commitment to us. 

God would NEVER have loved us if He did not choose to love us. There is NOTHING in us that is lovable. We are so far away from the world love. Without God there is only hatred, jealousy and malice. But God had decided to choose to love us. And to me - this is the very definition of love at the first sight. When we know nothing of the person or find nothing of the person that we could like but we choose to be commited to that love. BUT never think that we can be compared to God. Because even though it may sounds wonderful and beautiful to love another like this - our motivation can never be far away from our selfishness BUT God - did it for His glory which is another dimension of His love for us. 

EVerything about love - if God is not in it is just another selfish endeavour. God is the very definition of love - every romantic love is just a passing wind as times goes by - but LOVe that is based on God's love for us will never pass away - for that it gives us passion and commitment to that person that we choose to "love".